Do you give other people your power by letting them control how you feel about yourself? Do you try to please others so you will feel better about yourself? Do you try to keep the peace within your relationships by not rocking the boat so you end up walking on eggshells and losing a sense of who you are?
We give away our power when we focus on what others think about us or let their opinions define how we see ourselves. When we don’t speak our truth, we slowly lose parts of ourselves. When we start letting go of trying to please others, focus on what they think of us or stop walking on eggshells, we begin to feel empowered and start having more joy, peace, and happiness in our lives.
We live in a world with so much judgment about how we look, how we dress, what house we live in, what car we drive and what job we have. When in reality, none of this truly matters. What matters is that we are centered on who we are. When we live our lives with integrity, passion, honesty, authenticity, compassion and heart or, whatever has deeper meaning to you, we step into a more fulfilling life.
It is easy to get caught up in the latest and greatest and comparing ourselves to others. When we compare ourselves to others, we are no longer empowered. We are stuck in shame, doubt, not feeling good enough and inadequacy.
Below are three steps to begin taking back your power and building a solid foundation for who you are and what you want in your life.
- Weed out toxic people in your life. Surround yourself with safe people that are going to love you for who you are. They provide honest feedback, let you have a voice and, most importantly, help you continuously grow and be the best person you can be.
- Empower others. One of the greatest gifts we can give to others is to show up and honor others by letting them have a voice. This leads to more people feeling like they matter and are important. It’s really about, “Doing unto others as you would like done unto you.”
- Take time to figure out who you are. You are not alone if you don’t know exactly who you are. It’s a journey of self-discovery. Write in a journal five minutes a day about answering this question, “Who are you?” Explore your likes, passions, dislikes and what pulls at your heartstrings. You are worth it!